Ghost of Girlfriends Past

I'm just sitting here at my computer thinking about romance. Partially to avoid going into school to do research, but ANYWAY... ahem...I'm listening here to Suzanne Vega's 99.9 F. Really my favorite CD of hers. It reminds me of an ex of mine. She made a copy of the tape for me. We had a bit of a stormy relationship...not really. But it ended. I can't remember if I ended it or she did. It was probably mutual. The point being, that it wasn't one of my more sucessful relationships, but I think so very fondly of her nonetheless. She was such a fabulous feminist. She loved Mary Daly, and had beautiful bright blue eyes. Sure there were things that made it not work out for us, but I still have the utmost respect for her as person, and I still have lots of love her. And, I have to say that I feel the same for all of my ex-girlfriends. My roommate G- wonders why I don't just mack on women and flirt all over the place...I think it's because I have a great track record when it comes to girlfriends. I respect and care for all of them. Even the few doozies that I've been involved with. I like to know a person a bit before I start flirting with them. It seems like the more honorable thing, the more prudent thing to do. I mean, I can honestly say that I'm on good terms with all of my ex's, and I've been dating for twelve years now. Two of my very best friends in the world are also my very best ex's. And I would do anything for either one of them. Why am I bringing this up? I don't know...the music? Maybe because people seem to think I should be dating right now. And sometimes I agree. But me dating is a bit of a thing. 1) I want to date someone of the calibre of the people I've dated in the past, that means I'm not just going to jump into something. 2) I have yet to meet a straight girl here in LA who is both available and feminist/liberated/sasssy enough for me...and I'm sort of not exactly in the dyke dating pool anymore. But anyway, I'm not all that worried. I think that whenever it's right, it will happen. In the meantime, I will enjoy spending time working on myself...working out, watching Eastenders...or more accurately correcting lots of mid-Terms and doing lots of reading! Ahhhh...the life of a graduate student.

Hey, Andi, if you read this, I am planning on emailing you...I just haven't gotten around to it yet!

Last note: one of my students is tres cool. She's Australian and she has inspired me. She told me, that whenever anyone says something offensive, she turns to them and says, "Don't say that in front of me again, it's offensive." She doesn't apologize. She just lays it out. It's the way to go I think. So I told my roommate to stop talking about the size of women's chests in front of me. I find it objectifying and offensive. He justified by saying that he was just apprieciating the females' physical presentation, but he agreed not to do it in front of me anymore. Yay!

Oh, last thing, did a panel yesterday. And I got that, women should just stay strong women and not transition to become part of the patriarchy spiel. So tiresome. I hoped I was able to explain why that is not exactly the way the world works. Anyway...off to school...lots of Dufay to do.